MIL problems

My MIL has been giving me a lot of stress again... especially out of the blue... I really think she loves nothing then to pick a bone. She never apreciates what we've done for her and chooses to attack randomly whenever she feels like it and the worse part is she s discriminating and loves to take sides and will turn your words around to get back at you.
Thus of late, I keep myself as busy as I can outside of the house and when I am at home, I do some cleaning up and housework early in the morning then disappear into my room when she is hanging around downstairs just to avoid being picked at.
She is so hyper sensitive and even take things or words my 5 year old daughter do or not do or say or not say as something against her.
My eldest daughter is down staying with me for the holiday and she finds her holiday quickly becoming a stressful nightmare as well. She has been exemplary to me, and helped around the house a lot, especialy in cleaning up and taking the garbage out and such, so I took into offence when MIL started raising her voice and accused us of just 'putting up a show' of being hardworking when my husband was around as her darling grandchildren (especially her favourites) are so lazy and won't lift a finger unless forced to, and worse, they just dump their plates, cups in the sink without any guilt and can't even throw rubbish properly into the waste bin and who is the donkey or idiot who cleans up after them???
Me and my daughter that's who!!!!
The problem with MIL is that she should really be thankful for what life has given her instead of feeding her anger and insecurities and taking it out on other people... If she wanted any help with housework or such, all she can do is just ask nicely(meaning : something along the line of , "can you please hel me with this or that"), which I can assure you she never does.
When help is offered, she will say 'no need' and such but when she needs help she will say it in a way that we've never lifted a finger to help her in our whole life and she is such a victim
Heaven help me... my patience is really being tested to the maximum but my concience is clear and all I wanted to do along with my husband is to provide my seemingly ungrateful MIL company since she is an old lady with too much bitterness inside her... just hope that my sanity remains intact after all this.... with a home as such... who needs hell... LOL... I am already in one I think... hahahah...
Then after all is said and done, she accuses me of being a tattle tale and of tattling and telling tales to my husband (can you believe that!!!!) and she 'tattled' that to my daughter and step daughter and other people (so isn't that a pot calling a kettle black???) that if I were to break up her relationship with her son, she will do all she can to make sure our(my husband and me) relationship breaks too... Nice lady huh???

(so, well, since I am already being accused of being a tattle tale, I am tattlig it all out here now.... for those of you who reads this and feels offended, sorry for this but I need to release my tension and this is my blog anyway...)

Inner peace

If you can start the day without caffeine,

If you can always be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains,

If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,

If you can eat the same food every day and be grateful for it,

If you can understand when your loved ones are too busy to give you anytime,
If you can take criticism and blame without resentment,

If you can conquer tension without medical help,

If you can relax without liquor,

If you can sleep without the aid of drugs,


Then You Are Probably The Family Dog!